A US study, published in the Journal of Applied Psychology, suggests that they will consistently out-earn more “modern-thinking” men. One UK psychologist said men inclined to wield power in their relationships might also do this at work. 

Dr Magdalena Zawisza, a psychologist from Winchester University, said that there were a number of theories which might explain the difference. She said: “It could be that more traditionally-minded men are interested in power, both in terms of access to resources – money in this case – and also in terms of a woman who is submissive. 

Well, my take on this is..since these men are control freaks and they want to control every single thing in their lives, they feel more empowered and incharge of everything happening around them (read ‘rule’ others) . This enables them to perform at their best and also leads to comparatively less stressful life. Ofcourse, since they give all the stress to their poor wife and every other meek creature they bump into;) And u never know, they might as well harrass and pressurize their employer into paying them more:P

It was truly an eye-opener for me cos so often in life, we don’t realize that we are gifted and among the blessed ones. We stay unhappy for no reason and all, and its only when we sit back and think what others are putting up with, we get this feeling of utter bliss that we have all that we could possibly ask for… Seriously, what more can one want from life! And its this feeling that leads to gratefulness for Allah in every way possible. It also instills and reinforces our purpose of being as we then tend to re-evaluate where our life is going and how we can make it more productive for ourselves and those around us. It makes us feel proud of our accomplishments and contented with whatever Allah has blessed us with. It makes us go on in life with a renewed mission to help others and be there for people who need us. Above all, it makes us bring a difference in the lives of people who are not as priviliged as we are…

Think….May be its also time for you to be appreciative of life!

According to Wikipedia, a bragger is someone who talks ‘boastfully’. Well, if you ask me its an understatement;) Braggers don’t just boast about what they are and what they can do, but they often take it to a next level where they make up stuff and lie blatantly just to be considered ‘cool’ and ‘out there’. Above all, they are bigtime attention seekers and would say anything and everything to make you listen to them. They can brag about their new car which daddy bought them, they wont think twice before bragging about their high profile job which they might not even have, they could also take credit for someone else’s achievements and wont care less, or they might just surprise you one day saying that they are the next Bill Gates when in reality they have no freaking idea of what he is all about!

On a serious note, these people are victims of inferiority or superiority complexes and are attempting to hide their own insecurity. There’s a part of them that doesn’t feel worthy, and they’re constantly afraid they’ll be “found out.”

My 2 cents on how to handle braggers. Firstly, it wont take you long to find out if a person is bragging or not. Cos these people are way better than brands in building their equity;) I feel the worse thing you can do to them and yourself is to ignore. Never ignore. Let them have a taste of their own medicine. Confront them, challenge them, humiliate them, tease them, make fun of them. Do whatever it takes to make them realize that you know they are bragging and they better pack their bags and get lost! I usually never get along with such people and some of them are so consistent in their brags that no matter how much you make fun of them, they never seem to stop. That’s when i stop talking to them. Cos, at the end of the day, they are really not worth being friends with. When you know that the person is gonna lie about every damn word that he utters, how can you expect to trust and believe him. And i dont believe in superficial relationships. So when they start getting on my nerves, honey its time to say good bye;)

However, there’s another dimension to bragging which I call ’workplace bragging’. What do you do when some lazy bum who is an absolute good for nothing got promoted or rewarded for sheer bragging? Sometimes playing office politics is still the way to get noticed by management and those who really work hard sort of finish last. On such instances, one is bound to think that are the managers too shallow to know the truth? Well, if you think about it, the managers simply DON’T KNOW the truth because YOU didn’t tell them your accomplishments and your colleague did. 

I believe that yes bragging might get you one increment or promotion but wont take you anywhere from there if you dont deliver. Yes, in workplace environment it takes quite a bit of ‘selling’ to get you to the top but it takes ‘peak performance’ to stay there. Your results speak for yourself. If you are an outstanding performer there is nothing that can stop you from being noticed. Having said that, if you dont sell your accomplishments it might take you a while to get noticed. So, while you focus on delivering your best at work, also ensure that you spend some time in showcasing what you have done.

But, now i think its about time i should revive my blog. This doesn’t imply that i have suddenly cut down on talking (that’s next to impossible..hehe) but i believe writing is a healthy habit which should continue regardless.

So, whats the first thing i wanna talk about after a year of silence?;)

• Me? Oh plzz no, not again:P
• Life in general? No, m so not used to that kinda daily routine blogging;)
• Politics? :S things have only gotten from bad to worse in this one year, khoon jalane ka kia fayda:D
• Work? Hell no, m not THAT workaholic:P

Hmmm, so now u know i dont feel like writing about the usual stuff, i want something interesting to write about..lemme go figure that out, abhi roza lag raha hai;)

I’m so tired of being here
Suppressed by all my childish fears
And if you have to leave
I wish that you would just leave
‘Cause your presence still lingers here
And it won’t leave me aloneThese wounds won’t seem to heal
This pain is just too real
There’s just too much that time cannot erase

[Chorus:]
When you cried I’d wipe away all of your tears
When you’d scream I’d fight away all of your fears
And I held your hand through all of these years
But you still have
All of me

You used to captivate me
By your resonating light
Now I’m bound by the life you left behind
Your face it haunts
My once pleasant dreams
Your voice it chased away
All the sanity in me

These wounds won’t seem to heal
This pain is just too real
There’s just too much that time cannot erase

[Chorus]

I’ve tried so hard to tell myself that you’re gone
But though you’re still with me
I’ve been alone all along

[Chorus]

*Too many people do not discover how to live until it is time to die. They spend the best years of their lives chasing that illusory pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, working long hours, neglecting their families and their health in the process only to find that, at the end of the day, their obsessive pursuit of a fat bank account and the coveted corner office did not bring the deep fulfillment that they craved. Too many of us miss out on the simple gifts that everyday brings like the glory of sunrise or the laughter of a young child because we are so busy trying to make a living we have lost sight of the real meaning of life. Then one day, in our twilight years, we finally reflect on ‘what could have been’ and our hearts flood with regret over school concerts missed, family vacations not taken and magical moments lost. Perhaps Henry David Thoreau said it best when he observed “most people dread finding out when they come to die that they have never really lived”.

There is nothing wrong with great achievement. To believe that a life without career success and professional fulfillment is an incomplete life is also true. We all have a deep human hunger to create something great through the work we do and shine in our chosen occupations.  The point of wisdom is simple this: do not sacrifice a joy filled life for the sake of achievement. Instead, joyfully achieve. Balance your commitment to being the best in you can be at work with a deep commitment to being a great family person and loving friend. Understand that without balance in every core area of your life, you will never find lasting happiness and a sense that you have lived well. As Gandhi once said, “One cannot do right in one area of life whilst he is occupied in doing wrong in another. Life is one indivisible whole.”*

How true. Very rarely we take out time to think about ourselves and what is it that makes us happy. As the saying goes, people work so hard to climb the ladder of success only to find that it was leaning against the wrong wall.

Reflect deeply on the abundance in your life and regain a sense of perspective. Remember the Old Persian proverb that says: “I felt sad that I had no shoes on my feet until I saw the man with no feet.” Appreciate all the blessings you have and then go out into your days with enthusiasm, energy and joy. You will never be the same J

3 cheers to Junaid and his entire collection of evergreen hits

Aitebaar bhi aa hi jayega

Milo to sahi, raasta koi mil hi jayega

Chalo to sahi, chalo to sahi

Aitebaar bhi aa hi jayega….aa hi jayega

Dhoop mein khara jal raha hun main, saaya do mujhay

Ye mera junoon, ye meri jalan hai meri sazaa

Meri yeh thakan keh rahi hai kia

Suno to sahi, suno to sahi

Aitebaar bhi aa hi jayega…aa hi jayega

Kia hua agar zindagi zara ulajh si gaye, socho to zara

Jungalon mein bhi raaste to hain

Humein bhi koi mil hi jayega

Chalo to sahi, chalo to sahi

Pyaar yaar bhi ho hi jayega

Milo to sahi, raasta koi mil hi jayega

Chalo to sahi, chalo to sahi

Aitebaar bhi aa hi jayega….aa hi jayega

Aa hi jayega…

Aa hi jayega…

CHORUS:
Every time I close my eyes
I thank the lord that I’ve got you
And you’ve got me too
And every time I think of it
I pinch myself cuz I don’t believe it’s true
That someone like you loves me too

Girl I think that you’re truly somethin’, yes you are
And you’re, you’re every bit of a dream come true, yes you are
With you baby, it never rains
And it’s no wonder
The sun always shines when I’m near you
It’s just blessing that I have found somebody like you
Ooh Oh

CHORUS

To think of all the nights I’ve cried myself to sleep
You really oughta know how much you mean to me
It’s only right, it’s only right
(In my life) that you be in my life right here with me
Oh baby, baby, yeah

(-Kenny G. sax solo-)

I’ll tell you girl that…

(Chorus to fade)

Joining with UD to the feeling of being weirdly weird (see I know the spelling ) Thanx for the tag…here I go:

1. I find it so hard to say NO to ppl. Even though I know the person is using me, sometimes I just let things be, later I regret thinking how ppl take undue advantage of me
2. I can’t tolerate any loophole in my work, so much so that it becomes very difficult for me to satisfy myself. I settle with nothing but the best which at times becomes such a nuisance, I tell you.
3. Another big bother is that I EXPRESS just about everything I feel. Now, that’s surely not the right way to go about it.
4. If I ain’t interested in something, I won’t do it..no matter what it is or who asks me to do it (ofcourse, barring a few ppl )
5. And the weirdest of all…the more work I do (my kinda work), the more contented I am. Hate to stay idle, other than vacations (that’s why I’m always bored in vacations..lol)

      Oops, I’m already done with it, had so much else in mind

Let’s see what I wanted to be

At 5 years..

Ah, childhood memories at this age, I SO wanted to be a teacher..hehe, right since KG had been the monitor/prefect of my class n teacher’s exclusive pet so that’s where the inspiration came from..

At 10 years…

Being a teacher is so boring, nahh..now I found ‘docs’ very hot used to grab a stethoscope and move around the house treating everyone as a patient

At 15 years…

I was fortunately sensible by now, who talks to teachers and docs .. I fell in love with computers and programming, wanted to be a software engineer.

At 18 years…

My love for computers wasn’t that long-lasting so as to make me pursue it seriously in future. With the help of family and seniors, I could assess that the IT boom won’t last forever and I should opt for something that has scope, regardless of fads. So, at this age, I made the most sensible yet tough decision of my life and set out on a journey to study business administration.

At 20 years…

Now, there was family pressure to go for finance as majors, reason being the immense scope it offers coupled with loads of help that I could get from bro/cousins (doin CA). but nah, finance aint my cup of tea. Although, always scored straight As in financial courses but envisioning myself working at a bank/brokerage house/investment firm bogged down with numbers and sheets gave me the creeps.

So, according to my aptitude and personality, I rightly decided to choose marketing as majors; a decision I truly cherish to this day

Today…

At 22, MashaAllah I’m doing my thing. Have achieved all that I ever wanted to and keeping my eye on all the big things out there waiting for me ..life couldn’t be more perfect. Got a wonderful job at an MNC even before I completed my masters, with a kind of position that is generally not offered to freshies. What more can I ask for?

Thanx X for making me look back in time and once again thanking Allah for all that he has blessed me with J